My son Zachary's Lacrosse team was having a end of year celebration party the night that I found out. I remember quite clearly my thinking: tonight I'll have my last slices of pizza and tomorrow is the first day of the rest of my life. I needed to do things very differently from now on.
I was 223 lbs. I didn't exercise very much. I had a 40 inch waist. By average blood glucose according to my A1C was 229. My triglycerides were 660. My total cholesterol was 223. None of these numbers were good.
I need to change. Change is a process.
The Stages of Change:
- Precontemplation (Not yet acknowledging that you are headed to type 2 diabetes and you need to change)
- Reality: The unavoidable truth (Acknowledging that there is a problem but not yet ready or sure of wanting to make a change)
- Preparation/Determination (Getting ready to change)
- Commitment (Changing your diet and exercise routines)
- Maintenance (Maintaining your new diet and exercise routines)
- Relapse (Returning to older diet and exercise routines)
Stage One: Precontemplation
In the precontemplation stage, you are not thinking seriously about changing and you are not interested in any kind of help. Likely, you to defend your current bad habit(s) and you do not feel it is a problem. You've probably noticed the changes in your body and there is probably some documentation in you medical record that tells you this was where you were headed, but you didn't think it could happen to you. After all, they called it pre-diabtetes didn't they?
You simply just do not yet see yourself as having a problem.
Are you in the precontemplation stage? Probably not, because the fact that you are reading this likely means you have recently gotten a diagnosis of
type 2 diabetes.
(Of course, you may be reading this because you have a loved one who is still in the pre-diabetic stage. If this is the case, keep reading for suggestions about how you can help others progress through their stages of change to take control over their diabetic body)
Reality: The unavoidable truth
In the reality stage you are now aware that clinically you are classified as a diabetic. Although you are able to consider the possibility of changing, you might be ambivalent about it. Certainly there must be some drugs you can take, do you really need to change your lifestyle?
In this stage, you are on a teeter-totter. You weigh the pros and cons of modifying your lifestyle. Although you think about the negative aspects of your diabetes and unhealthy lifestyle and the positives associated with changing your levels of fitness and what you eat, you may doubt that the long-term benefits associated with change will outweigh the short-term pain.
It might take you as little as a day or as long as a lifetime to get through the reality stage. (In fact, some people think and think and think about changing their lifestyle and eating habits and may die never having gotten beyond this stage...)
On the plus side, you are more open to receiving information about your disease, and more likely to actually use educational interventions and reflect on your own feelings and thoughts concerning the impact you can have in controlling your own diabetes through diet and exercise.
Stage Three: Preparation/Determination
In the preparation/determination stage, you have made a commitment to make a change. Your motivation for changing is reflected by statements such as: “I’ve got to do something about this — this is serious. Something has to change. What can I do?”
This is sort of a research phase: you are now taking small steps toward a positive change in your behavior. You are trying to gather information (sometimes by reading things like this) about what you will need to do to control your diabetes.
You may find yourself calling a lot of people, trying to find out what strategies and resources are available to help you in your goals of managing your diabetes. Too often, people skip this stage: they try to move directly from contemplation into action and fall flat on their faces because they haven’t adequately researched or accepted what it is going to take to make this major lifestyle change.
Stage Four: Commitment
This is the stage where you commit to change your behavior. You are actively involved in taking steps to change your eating habits and fitness level.
Believe it or not, this can be the shortest of all the stages. The amount of time you spend in commitment varies. It generally lasts about 6 months, but it can literally be as short as one hour! This is a stage when you most depend on your own willpower. You are making overt efforts to change the behaviors and eating habits and are at greatest risk for relapse.
Mentally, you review your commitment to yourself and develop plans to deal with both personal and external pressures that may lead to slips. You may use short-term rewards to sustain your motivation, and analyze your behavior change efforts in a way that enhances your self-confidence. People in this stage also tend to be open to receiving help and are also likely to seek support from others (a very important element).
Hopefully, you will then move to:
Stage Five: Maintenance
Maintenance involves being able to successfully at changing your level of fitness and eating habits. The goal of the maintenance stage is to maintain the new status quo. People in this stage tend to remind themselves of how much progress they have made.
People in maintenance constantly reformulate the rules of their lives and are acquiring new skills to deal with life and avoid relapse. You are able to anticipate the situations in which a relapse could occur and prepare coping strategies in advance.
You will remain aware that what you are striving for is personally worthwhile and meaningful. You are patient with yourself and recognize that it often takes a while to let go of old behavior patterns and practice new ones until they are second nature. Even though you may have thoughts of returning to your old bad eating habits and low level of fitness, you resist the temptation and stay on track.
As you progress through your own stages of change, it can be helpful to re-evaluate your progress in moving up and down through these stages.
(Even in the course of one day, you may go through several different stages of change).
And remember: it is normal and natural to regress, to attain one stage only to fall back to a previous stage. This is just a normal part of making changes in your behavior.
Additionally, there will be some foods that are not healthy for you as a diabetic but that you simply must eat from time to time. To this end, you should plan some sort of semiannual day where you will eat anything you want for a day and not worry about your blood glucose levels.
RelapseAlong the way to permanent change, most people experience relapse. In fact, it is much more common to have at least one relapse than not. Relapse is often accompanied by feelings of discouragement and seeing yourself as a failure.
While relapse can be discouraging, the majority of people who successfully change any ingrained behavioral pattern do not follow a straight path to a life time free of self-destructive bad habits. Rather, they cycle through the five stages several times before achieving a stable life style change. Consequently, the Stages of Change Model considers relapse to be normal.
There is a real risk that people who relapse will experience an immediate sense of failure that can seriously undermine their self-confidence. The important thing is that if they do slip and say, not exercise as they had planned for a week, they shouldn’t see themselves as having failed.
Rather, they should analyze how the slip happened and use it as an opportunity to learn how to cope differently. In fact, relapses can be important opportunities for learning and becoming stronger.
Relapsing is like falling off a horse — the best thing you can do is get right back on again. However, if you do “fall off the horse” and relapse, it is important that you do not fall back to the precontemplation or contemplation stages. Rather, restart the process again at preparation, determination or even the maintenance stages.
You need to learn how to handle unexpected episodes of stress without letting it impact your diet or exercise routines. This gives you a stronger sense of self control and the ability to get back on track and stay there. Controlling your diabetes through lifestyle changes will help stave off the day when medication is the only mechanism to control your blood glucose levels.
Transcendence
Eventually, if you “maintain maintenance” long enough, you will reach a point where you will be able to work with your emotions and understand your own diabetes and view it in a new light. This is the stage of “transcendence,” a transcendence to a new life. In this stage, not only is your old lifestyle no longer an integral part of your life but to return to it would seem atypical, abnormal, even weird to you.
When you reach this point in your process of change, you will know that you have transcended the your old lifestyle and that you are truly becoming a new “you", a person who is in control of their type 2 diabetes through the use of diet and exercise.
I was lucky that I went from reality to total commitment in 24 hours. I've been working towards trancendence for a little over a year now, and I'm making some progress. If you look at my success charts, you can see my journey for the last year. In my next post, I'll explain what it took to drop the weight, and change my blood glucose and lipid profile in such a dramatic fashion.
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